CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS

It's almost Christmas and I am looking forward to being with friends and family for the next few days. At times I am sad when I think that this is the first Christmas without my grandmother. She loved the homemade gifts that we gave her every year and made a big fuss over the kids. A lady who lives in Peninsula is making something for us that will help keep our grandmother near our hearts all year long. She is designing a charm. One side of the charm she is taking one of her favorite blouses and snipping a small square of fabric and placing it inside the charm. She is mounting a daisy on top of the fabric. My grandmother loved daisies and her nickname was Miss Daisy. On the other side she is scanning my grandmother's signature from a card that I had kept. I can't wait to see the finished product.

As I look back on the month of December, it has been a wonderful time with family and friends. The annual cookie exchange, our buckeye making day with Sherrie and Sandie, the annual Christmas production at Hope, Wally's Christmas party, and a fun night last night with the teens at Hope. The best is yet to come.

This saturday our family will be going with 2 other families at Hope to visit children who are in the hospital and a dear friend in a nursing home. This just isn't any visit...we all dress up in the "nativity" costumes...including a camel, and bring the manger to them. This may sound "cheesy" to some...but we have fun.

I think I have truly felt the true meaning of Christmas this year. It is easy to be busy with the shopping and baking...but the importance of this holiday is sharing the love of Christ with those around us. It's about putting the busyness of the season aside and making time for people.

Stonecroft Ministry

One of the best kept secrets in women's ministry is an organization called Stonecroft. Stonecroft ministries are all over the country. They host monthly luncheons or breakfasts for women to bring their unchurched friends. There is always a secular speaker and a spiritual speaker. About a year ago I started the process to become an approved stonecroft speaker. Several times I wanted to give up. Your talk is critiqued over and over again. I had to swallow my pride many times as I listened to constructive criticism. They pay you to come to their clubs and speak. I have been blessed to have the chance to speak 3 times this week. Monday I was in Warren, Tuesday in sandusky and tomorrow I will be in East Liverpool. The clubs are mainly made up of women who are retired. At first I wasn't sure if I would enjoy this. I was so wrong. For example, today I sat beside a woman who was 92. She was what I would call a "firecracker". I enjoyed talking to her so much and appreciated the wisdom that she had. I also sat with a lady who is a greatgrandmother. You would never know it. She runs a bed and breakfast and invited me to come visit. YEH! Can I also say she was the best dressed lady there. She was so hip and fashionable. The best part is...she is going to send me a box of her hand me downs. YEH! YEH! The grandmothers there today were stylish, funny and more importantly...believers. Monday I met another group of mature women (I won't dare call them older) who blessed me as well. I can't wait until tomorrow to see what God has in store. Maybe I will meet someone who wants to get rid of some jewelrey.. HA HA

I also had the honor of speaking at a ladies event in Auburn. I am in awe of how the Lord continues to bring the opportunities my way.

Random Thoughts

I am about to begin my 8th day of teaching in a row. I have loved every minute of it. I have taught kindergarten to 11th grade in the last 2 weeks. It's ironic that I can't get the kindergarten kids to rest and I can't keep the high school students awake. I am thankful for the chance to work. It is great paying cash for Christmas.

It was great having a classroom with windows today so we could watch the snow. Yes today was kindergarten. It also makes my faithful that we have already booked our summer beach house for July. We loved this house and the irony of it is the owner lives one town away from us so we were able to book directly with her. I am also excited that 15 of the 16 people (my immediate family) will be there. We have never had this many before. It should be fun. I am excited to spend some time with my nephews and nieces that I don't see very often.



Another neat thing that has happened is that we continue to see the legacy of my grandmother live on. She was always a giver. An unexpected insurance policy was discovered and that money has been earmarked to help others. A fund has been set up in her honor. My mom has had the privledge of already helping buy medication and a hot water tank for people in need. This is exactly what my grandmother would have done. I don't think we will ever know the amount of lives that she touched while she was alive. Now her memory and her legacy live on. Way to go Miss Daisy. (her nickname)

IT'S ALL ABOUT THE FAMILY

Another Thanksgiving has come and gone and there is so much to be thankful for. Family, friends, health, laughter just to name a few. We had family come to visit for Thanksgiving and a fun time was had by all. We spent the morning preparing a delicious meal including many southern specials and many of my grandmother's recipes. We tried to re-create her traditional meal. We had a few successes and a few failures. I learned an important lesson. If a recipe calls for egg whites...egg whites are very important. I set a table this year with my china and we sat together as a family. Minutes before eating I assigned Alex the job of praying for our meal. He went on the internet and printed the "Lord's Prayer" all by himself. When it came time to pray...he read this prayer. I have to admit that I was gratefule that my head was bowed. I couldn't help but giggle at his interpretation and pronunciation of some of the more diffifult words. He did a wonderful job and we now have a new tradition. I told Alex that as he grows and turns into a man...this will always be his assignment on Thanksgiving morning. I am going to tuck the copy of the prayer in my calendar for next November.

We did let go of one tradition. We did not wake early enough to shop at 5:00 am the day after Thanksgiving. Oh well...out with the old and in with the new.

The girls are actually putting up the Christmas trees today and I am feeling blessed to be surrounded by family.

I learned a really important lesson this Thanksgiving. It really is about family and the people in our lives. Everything else can be replaced. This week, I have been taking small baby steps to follow God in His calling for me to write and speak. I found myself evaluating my life and if there was anything in my heart that was keeping the Lord from using me. He quickly brought to mind a relationship that I was treating as "disposable". I had been hurt and I had almost written this person out of my life. He showed me that he loves everyone and I should as well. I knew that I needed to mend this relationship and let nothing stand in the way. Not pride...not the desire to be "right"..not even fear. I went that day and mended this relationship. It wasn't easy for both of us...but we both agreed that this needed to be done. I love this person and I am so glad that the Lord orchestrated this healing. He can do that for you too.

IT'S ALMOST CHRISTMAS

That can mean alot of things. Time to shop, decorate, bake cookies. For my family it means one more thing...time for the annual homemade Christmas gift. Yes, for the past 7 years, I have made my children (yes made) make a homemade gift for their grandparents. Every year when I bring up the idea, I am reminded of all the homemade gifts of Christmas past. There was the placemat purse, the pillow case angel, the reindeer ornament, the snowman made out of popsicle sticks. Oh who could forget the fleece blankets and scarves and our all time favorite fleece mittens. I am sure there are others that we have blocked out of our memory. So I open to suggestions. I am looking for something quick, simple and cheap. I need to have money left over to buy another gift after we mess up the homemade one and have to shop for the replacement. This weekend, the sewing maching will be threaded, the glue gun warmed up and the scissors sharpened. Yes...this is the weekend of the homemade gift.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALLISON

We have a new teenager in our house. Today Allison turns 13. I think back to this day 13 years ago. We were stationed at Wright-Patterson Air Force Base. Wally had been up all night writing a paper but Allison decided this was the time that she wanted to enter the world. Family was on standby just waiting to hear of her arrival so they could come and see this little girl.

Allison has taken us on many adventures with her interest in gymnastics and cheerleading. Her new endeavor is basketball. We appreciate her willingness to try new things and to have fun. I am excited to see what God has planned for her. Her dream is to be an architect and live in a loft in New York City. Dream big Allison...you serve a big GOD.

We love you.

ONE STEP AT A TIME

I am off today so I decided to try something new. I decided to have my time in the Bible today with David Jeremiah. He is on the radio at 8:30 am so I grabbed my Bible, a muffin and a cup of coffee. We studied John chapter 17. Pastor Jeremiah talked about how Jesus was focused on what God was calling him to do. He challenged listeners to find out what God was calling them to do and let nothing get in the way of that purpose. Pastor Jeremiah began his career as a DJ on the radio but later realized that God was calling him to be a pastor and a teacher.

I decided today that I needed to take some baby steps and follow what God is calling me to do in the areas of speaking and writing. So far...I have sent an email to someone regarding speaking and I am offically sending my children's book to Nancy Leigh Demoss's publisher today. I had email her in FEBRUARY and she agreed to read my book. I have wasted 9 months. So...pray for me...I am sending it today. I'll keep you posted.

WOW

I wasn't sure what to call this post...all I could think of is WOW!! That is how I felt after leaving Bethel College this week.

I had an opportunity to speak at their mid-week chapel. I brought along 2 friends and the fun began as soon as we left my driveway. It is amazing how quick a 4 hour trip can be when you are talking and laughing the whole way. Bethel provided a cozy trailer for us to use and it was great having Ashley stay with us as well.


Wednesday morning came and it was an exciting day. The message is actually on their website if you would like to listen. I haven't listened to my talk. To me...it is sort of watching yourself on video. I hate how my accent seems to dominate anything that I say.

The worship was wonderful and my talk began with a wonderful introduction from Ashley. I am so proud of the way she carries herself and she has turned into such a wonderful young lady who loves the Lord.

We later had lunch at the dining hall and I loved the conversations we had with students.

My favorite part of the weekend happened at dinner. We went to a wonderful little restaurant with 4 other students. One girl and 3 boys. They allowed me to pick their brains so I could get an idea of how students at a Christian college think. I asked them if they thought there was only "one" person for them. I also asked them if they could make a list of what they wanted in their future spouse...what would they have on their list. No one mentioned looks. Their list contained character qualities that align with scripture and I was blown away. One statement that stuck with me was when one boy said "I want a wife that when I am around her and when I spend time with her...I love God more." WOW WOW

I rewarded them with a wonderful dessert. I left that dinner encouraged that God is building up leaders for the next generation.

Our "Girls only seminar" began at 9:00pm. We were suppose to send at 9:50 pm. We left at 11:30 pm. Girls began to ask questions and I was blown away by the stuggles that they are experiencing. It was wonderful time. It was exactly what I prayed for. I didn't want the seminar to be what I had to say...I wanted to hear what they had to say.

One girl came up to me after the seminar and just shared how the Lord is working in her life and what he is calling her to do. She feels called to speaking someday and is not sure where to begin. I invited her to accompany me to some speaking engagements. I pray that maybe she will become a "Timothy" in my life.

God is SO GOOD. He is so FAITHFUL.

I FINISHED!!!!

I will try to post some pictures later...but I finished my first 5K. What was my time? Let's just say by the time I finished I am thankful that the finish line was still up. No...it wasn't that bad...just not the time that I hoped for. I have to admit that for the first time...since I have been training...I walked. My coach, Ashley, was very reassuring and not to give up. I was a little overwhelmed at the beginning of the race. We had to walk a little bit before we even made it to the starting line. It was very crowded and hard at times to even find a place to run. I think I went out way to strong just trying to keep of with the mob.

Would I do it again? I am not sure. I enjoyed the training months much more than the race itself. I have to say that coming through the finish line was pretty cool. My family was cheering me on and I think I even passed a few people. In the beginning I tried to bribe a few runners if they would agree to come in behind me. HA HA. Half way through the race I even asked a policeman for directions to a short cut. It was a fun afternoon and I can now cross this off my list of things that I wanted to do in life. What's next? I'm not sure. I am always open so if you have any ideas...pass them on

PRIDE COMES BEFORE THE FALL...AND A GIRDLE

Well I am finally seeing some fruit of all of my running labor. The scale shows that I have lost 11 pounds. I was so excited that I couldn't wait to tell everyone about my weight loss. Yesterday at church, I was sharing how proud I was of the fact that I have stuck with a program and that I had lost some weight.

Later that day, I was at Kohl's and ran into a friend that I had not seen in at least 2 years. She looked at me and pointed to my stomach and I thought for sure she was going to compliment me on my weight lost. She asked "When is your baby due?" I was shocked. At first I was going to play along and make up some due date because I knew she would be so embarassed. I said "I am not pregnant!" She felt terrible and I kind of shook it off and told her not to worry about it. Down deep I was mortified. I wasn't sure what to do as I walked away...so I did what any vain woman with low self image would do... I went to the lingerie department and bought a girdle.

Little bit of advice...unless a woman is wearing a shirt that acually says "baby on board"...don't ask her if she is pregnant.

WHY AM I RUNNING?

That's a question that I ask myself everytime I leave to run. I am training to run a 5K October 14th with my best friend Sandi. Oprah has Gayle...I have Sandi. She asked me to do this with her and I said yes without thinking. When I began...I could barely run 1 minute...now I am up to 24 minutes. Each time I leave to run, I ask God to give me feet with wings because I know there is no way I can do this on my own. Usually, in the middle of my run, I think about quitting. Who would know...I would...and of course God. So why do I do it?

1) I do it first and foremost for God. Everything I do... I need to bring glory to Him. It's a time that I spend in worship as I listen to praise music the entire time. There have even been times that I have ran a short distance with my hands stretched out to him. He energizes me.

2) I do it because it has taught me to be disciplined. I know I have to do this if I want to finish the race. You can't train for one day. Especially if you are as out of shape as I was.

3) I do it for all the women who have been and who will be diagnosed with breast cancer. Each time I think about quitting, I think about each woman, in the midst of her chemo and radiation, who wants to quit. I think of my mom who faced her cancer with grace and with determination. She didn't quit and neither will I. I am excited about running the Susan B. Komen Breast Cancer run on October 14th. I am excited to run alongside women who are the most courageous and awesome women you will ever meet. I am excited to run in the midst of pink shirted women who's shirt symbolizes their survival of breast cancer.

I LOVE MONDAYS

After a busy weekend, I look forward to Mondays. This is the day that I can get caught up on cleaning and re-group from the weekend. Also on mondays I try to write down what I hope to accomplish this week. Now that I am working a few days a week, I have to organize me time a little better.

Last Thursday and Friday I taught 8th grade social studies. I loved it. I really enjoy that age. The hightlight was on Friday when a student came and told me how much fun he had and he hoped I came back. Another boy wrote "I love Mrs. Trachsel" on the white board. I think this was because I allowed them to do their homework in groups.

We had another whirlwind weekend. Friday night we went to the football with good friends. Saturday, we drove 6 hours to watch Ashley run 21 minutes. It was worth the trip. We had a chance to visit with Ashley, family and even a dear friend that we hadn't seen in years. SHe was a former youth from our church who has just as goofy as she was 4 years ago.

Austin had a soccer game this weekend as well. An interesting thing happened as we were walking to the game. An older man and his dog pulled up beside us and asked how old the children were playing today. This seemed like an odd question. His car had out of state license plates. After we spoke to him, he pulled over and watched the field for a short time. This made me very uncomfortable. The field is also beside a playground and a busy library. I hated to categorize this man, but everything inside me said I should let someone know about this. At halftime, I went into the library and explained what I saw. I pray that this was just coincidence....but better safe then sorry. It's a shame that the news is full of stories of children being harmed.

MONEY...THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL

I feel compelled today to use my blog to journal what is in my heart. Many of you know that I lost my grandmother in May. What a tragic lost. I miss her so much and I wish she was here now to solve some problems...but I am also thankful to know that she isn't here to see how people are behaving. Growing up...you never wanted to disappoint Nee. I know...she would be so disappointed in the behavior of some people. Especially those she called friend. Why is this going on? MONEY!!!

Today I am speaking in Amish country to a group of women and I will be sharing the Gospel. I wish I could cancel. My anger got the best of me last night...and I can't believe the effect it had on me. I believe my mom summed it up best last night when she said it was like we are seeing death occur again when you begin to see relationships crumble.

I ask that you pray that my family and I come through this in a way that glorifies the Lord. I also ask that each one of you evaluate your relationships. Relationships with family and friends and most importantly God is the most imporant thing in this world. Money will disappear and material possessions will fade away. Friendships and family are important.

Is there someone that you need to say I'm sorry to? Is there someone that you need to call, email, write? Do it today. I am praying for a few of these situations for myself and some friends. I hope healing comes.

I feel so strongly about this. Don't just say "I'll pray about it"..NO!! Do something about it. Truly...what is there to pray about...YOU know God wants you to heal that relationship. Pray that he will open doors and help you do it...but there really is no time to wait. JUST DO IT!!! Friendships are too important to treat as disposable!!! I think this is especially true for those of us who profess to be followers of Christ. He was all about LOVE! Love thy neighbor thing...remember.

I will now step off my soapbox.

JUST CALL ME MRS. T.

Yesterday I received my first call to substitute teach. The call came at 6:30 am for me to report to a 4th grade class at 7:25. I was so excited. I even curled my hair. I felt like it was the first day of school.

I reported to my classroom and found the lesson plan. Yes, they actually expect subs to teach. I had to teach math and social studies twice. I thought...how hard can it be? How many of you remember the difference between a parallelogram, a concave or comvez polygram. Do you know what a trapezoid is? I didn't. I tried to look on the computer, but I didn't know how to log in. I wasn't sure what I should do. Maybe I should be the "cool" sub and blow off any work and just play games.

I decided to frantically search the textbook and I finally found definitions that I could use.

In came my class. Smiles came on their faces as they realized there was a sub. I remember my days in school. We loved the subs. We assumed that they didn't know anything. If they did...why weren't they full time teachers. ha ha

I greeted each child and told them who was in charge. No not really..I told them if they behaved I would give them candy. It worked.

I had a great day. I taught for 2 hours. Hada 2 hour break and taught for 2 more hours. You have to love lunch, recess and art right in a row.

I was exhausted when I got home. Next time...I will wear more comfortable shoes...and bring more candy

MY DAY

Here is a quick snapshot of my afternoon/evening.

4:30 Ally's football game
6:15 Austin's soccer practice
6:30 Alex's cub scout meeting
7:00 Austin's band meeting
7:30 Pick up Austin at practice
8:00 homework
8:30 baths and bedtime

It may look like an exhausting schedule...but I found joy in the midst of chaos. I realized that I am thankful to have healthy children who can participate in activities. Not every evening is like this. We strive to truly find balance in their activities. I'm just glad that gas prices are down.

On a humorous note:

Last night our family left church and got into our car to leave. Thankfully I realized that we were one child short. I went back into the church to find Alex crying. Yes, we had forgot one child. I asked him if he had asked anyone for help. Actually, I was wondering how many people knew that I had left my child.
All is well and Alex benefited from his trauma with a special treat.

WEDDING WEEKEND

Wow!! What a weekend. The highlight being 2 wedding ceremonies that we attended on Saturday. The first was a re-commitment ceremony at our church. This couple had been through a very rough year and chose to renew their vows 17 years to the date that they first married. They came down the aisle as a family and each child participated in the ceremony. I don't cry very easy...but I have to say that tears welled up in my eyes several times. They truly represent what it means to become "one". I admire this couple very much and they way they have walked this journey together.

Our second wedding was at the Western Reseve Historical Museum. It was a Jewish ceremony for a young Russian couple. I loved the tradition of the ceremony. The Bride came down the aisle with her parents to the song "Sunrise Sunset" from Fiddler.
The Bride had to circle her groom 3 times as a symbol of forming protection around him. She looked like Cinderella. Earlier in the day, the Groom had to come to the house of the Bride and "pay" the Father for his daughter. He had to drink a certain drink and then he had to search for his bride. Based on some clues...he finally found where his bride was. A ribbon is placed on the door of where she is waiting. SHe was actually in my neighbor's living room. The groom finds his bride and they go to the wedding together.

The reception was incredible. Our children were invited so they were able to experience this with us. We sat down to a 9 course meal which included lobster and other russian foods we did not recognize. We tried everything and can I say that I love caviar.

The entire reception was in Russian. We left at 11:30 pm and they had yet to even cut the cake. For everyone that stayed...breakfast was served at 1:00 am. There was no chicken dance, hokey pokey, or electric slide, but the all russian band kept the crowd happy as they danced many traditinal russian dances. I forgot to mention one of our courses came to the table with "sparklers" lit. Also, when the bride and groom danced their first dance, miniature fireworks went off on the stage, along with smoke. It was a wonderful experience. For a moment...I wished that I was Russian. They are a very tight community and seem very family oriented. Occasionally someone would come to our English speaking table and translate.

The weekend was topped off with a quick trip to West Virginia.

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OPERATION LIGHTEN UP

That's my motto for fall...LIGHTEN UP. I want to lighten the load in my life. I want to rid myself of the things that weigh me down...and I have a plan. This includes weight, possessions, debt, overscheduling, etc.

It feels so good to "lighten the load." My running has helped me lighten the load in the weight department and it felt so good to take several bags to the community center yesterday. As I was leaving...a lady immediately took a table that I had left and told me how she was going to use it. I didn't need it...but she did.

I am also selling a lot of things on ebay. This includes everything from clothes to household items.

I will keep you posted on how "operation lighten up" goes.

I am excited about the weekend.

We are going to a Russian Wedding on saturday and also a re-commitment ceremony on the same day.

We leave for Charleston on Sunday to pick up some items that we were given from my grandmother's estate.

I am really excited about receiving the swing that sat on her front porch for as long as I can remember.

Many great times were had on that front porch. The saddest being the day that we were out there discussing her funeral.

I think the lost is really starting to set in with many of us. Just this week I found myself wanting to call her and see how she was doing. I know how she is doing. GREAT!!!She's hanging out with Jesus.

I AM LOSING MY MOTIVATION

I am currently in my 6th week of training. I can run 13 minutes. I have also found that it is getting harder for me to feel motivated to run.

I saw this picture and it suddenly mad me feel motivated to run.

Enjoy

BIG SOCCER WEEKEND

We have spent most of the weekend at a soccer tournament in Hudson. Today we had a game at 8:00 am church at 9:30 and another game at 11:00. What a pain sitting at the game in a skirt, but I am so thankful that the timing worked out and we were able to do the games and a church. What a struggle it is sometimes when sports are on a Sunday. Wally and I are also careful to make sure that sports never overshadows our commitments on Sunday morning. I told the coach that we were leaving for church and that we would be back in plenty of time. This even opened up the door to talk to him and other families about our church.

I had 2 interesting observations during our weekend of soccer.

1) During halftime I overheard the referee thanking the parents for their positive behavior and for "sharing their children with him." I was really moved by his taking the time to encourage parents and his attitude about his job. It is also sad that before each season, we, as parents, have to listen to the coach remind us to always be positive. He also reminded us of the consequences of yelling negative comments at your child and referee. I have seen both...and it is so sad to see and hear.

2) As I was walking around I heard a player who was playing for the team that was currently in last place. He yelled..."Now let's go out there and become the second worst team in the tournament." Give that kid a klondike bar.

BIG PARTY TONIGHT!!!

Tonight we are hosting a campout for 14 boys (ages are 8-11). We are combining Austin and Alex's birthday and having one big blowout. We are hoping for clear skies because we are sleeping in tents. We will also be cooking hot dogs outside, smore's and hopefully a treasure hunt. I can't belive how much work and money it takes to plan a birthday party!!!

Maybe I'll post some pictures tomorrow.

TODAY IS PICTURE DAY!!

Today is the annual visit to have the girls photographed. Not Ashley and Ally...but lefty and righty. Yes today is my MAMMOGRAM!!!!

I have to have a sense of humor about today or I would be scared to death. I dread this day so much. My mom is 10 year breast cancer survivor so it is important that I go every year.

I think I might take my MP3 player with me this year and see if I could listen to some music to ease the pain.

BE SPONTANEOUS

Last Friday I met my parents and my sister in Amish Country for lunch. I was telling my Dad that we were going to Browns stadium that night to watch the Browns practice. He mentioned how he wish he had known because he would have packed and spent the weekend in Cleveland. Then he said something that shocked me. He said.."Let's go anyway". So they decided to come home with me and stay the weekend. They went to the mall and bought a few items that would get them through the weekend. We were even able to have a prescription filled for my Dad. When my other sister heard of the plans, she decided to be spontaneous and come down as well.

Being Spontateous is fun!!!

We ended up having a great weekend!

I am not a football fan at all, but I really enjoyed the evening. We watched the team practice, we ate $1 hot dogs, and I became a Browns fan that night. I even have a favorite player. TED WASHINGTON. Ted is 6'4 365 pounds. He is 38 years old. He is HUGE!!! I loved watching him block, tackle and run. He is very intimidating. If he ever quits football, he would definately have a future in children's ministry. No one would ever tell him NO!

Have a great day and be spontaneous.

A BEAUTIFUL MOMENT AT STEAK AND SHAKE

The other day I took Austin out for lunch for his birthday. He was allowed to order anything he wanted and any size milkshake his little 10 year old heart desired. Later, 2 men and 4 little girls came in and sat down behind us. We were sitting so close that you could easily hear their conversation. I almost laughed out loud when I heard expressions like the following from the dads. "No..you cannot eat the paper, no...you cannot take your shoes and socks off in public... I am assuming that this was a special father and daughter outing. The little girls ranged in age from 2 to 5. Once everyone settled in at their table...I almost cried when I heard the following conversation between the dads and their daughters. "You are so beautiful...you are my little princess...you are so special to me sweetheart." I thought to myself...what great men. They are using their time to invest in their daughters. They are showing them, at a young age, how they should be treated by men. They have set the bar high for their little girls. I wanted to go over and say something to them...but I didn't. They were both a great example of how dads need to treat their daughters. Then it made me think...what should I be saying to my sons. I want them to become men...like the ones at steak and shake.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AUSTIN

10 years ago today...we welcomed a bouncing baby boy into our family...Austin walter Trachsel. Austin was named after my grandfather and his dad and grandfather.

He was born at the Air Force Academy Hospital and cost Wally and I $13.00

It is so interesting having a baby at at Military Installation. The Hospital is just like any other hospital. You have to settle your bill before you check out. I spent more at the movies today then I did at the Hospital.

Austin has his annual breakfast in bed. We went to a birthday lunch and a movie.

Austin brings so much joy to our life. He has a real love for sports, has a wonderful sense of humor and has even caught the eye of a little girl across the street. I think it is the new highlights he has in his hair.

My prayer is that Austin grows into a man that loves the Lord, a man that loves his family and a man that will follow Christ no matter what the cost.

We love you Austin and look forward to many many birthdays.

FOLLOW UP TO OUR TOOTH DILEMMA

Yesterday began with a phone call from my neighbor that went something like this:

Hello Joy...this is your neighbor...I bet you never want to see me again.

My mom defenses immediately dropped. I was so impressed with her deep concern for what happened to Austin. She wasn't home when it happened and wanted to immediately come next door and see his tooth.

She came over and felt terrible. I told her I wasn't upset with her at all...just the situation.

She was so afraid that I wouldn't want to speak to her again. We talked and laughed about how our friendship and the fact that we were neighbors was much more important than a chipped tooth. She offered to do anything to help with the situation.

As she left she thanked me for my attitude and told me she loved me. I told her I loved her too. What a beautiful moment...I am sure violins were playing somewhere.

I am so grateful how the Lord worked this situation out and how she actually ministered to me.

It was a beautiful example of our wonderful God working things out. I love it when ministry happens beyond the walls of a church.

Side note - we went to the dentist and he can fix the tooth in 3 weeks when Austin's mouth had healed. It will be a minimal cost thanks to great Dental care from Wally's job.

We're off to a weekend of camping with our care group. Pray that we have no incidents and everyone comes home with all their teeth.

LIFE LESSONS FROM OUR CHILDREN

I am amazed of how quickly God sometimes gives us situations where we have to really think of how we are going to respond. In my blog yesterday, I mentioned how God showed me that true ministry is really about loving people.

Last night, my son Austin, came home from the neighbors in tears. He had went over to invite his friend to sleep over. I am not sure what led up to this, but the little boy slammed the door in his face and chipped his front tooth! Not a little chip, but half the tooth is gone. I did what any good Christian mother would do...I sent my husband over, with the tooth, to talk to the parents.

After a few minutes, I went outside. The 2 boys and their dads were calmly talking about the situation. I just stood there with my arms folded across my chest. I am sure my body language spoke for itself. As we were leaving...Austin asked if the little boy could still sleep over. I said emphatically...NO!

I was amazed at how quick Austin forgave this little boy. I was also amazed at how he wasn't bothered about the fact that he only had half a tooth. Maybe for boys this is some sort of badge of honor.

I called the dentist and he explained to me that this could be a simple fix or sometimes a long more expensive fix. What do I do? I need to remember what I learned at Wet and Wacky. Ministry is about loving people. How do I love in the midst of my anger and frustration. How do I love knowing that this could cost us alot of money and Austin pain. I need to really pray about my attitude and let God be God in the midst of this. I mean it is only a tooth. I need to keep in perspective that this is a family that doesn't know the Lord. I know this because of some conversations that we have had. She has attended a women's event with me and this lead us to some conversations on spiritual matters.

So this is my dilemma.

One more question to ponder. Does the tooth fairy visit for half a tooth.

WET AND WACKY

Today was our annual trip to Beaulah Beach for Wet and Wacky. 850 children attended this event which consists of a yuck slide, swimming, climbing wall, etc. The highlight of the day was the closing ceremony. I have never heard the Gospel presented so clearly in my life. The speaker was able to share the Gospel, to children, in a way that they could completely understand. It wasn't one of these...Jesus died, rose again...now say a prayer. When he gave the altar call, at least 50 children came forward. So many children came, that I had to interrupt the speaker and have him announce we needed more counselors. The neat thing is when I spoke to each child, they could completely explain to me the decision they were making and why. It was an incredible experience.

It was also good for me to see what true ministry is. It's not always about being on a staff...it's just loving people...where ever you are. It's about making yourself available for God to use.

BACK FROM VACATION

We have returned from our beach vacation!!!For the first time in many years, I wasn't ready to return. I enjoyed the slower pace, the time with family and the beauty of the beach. I wasn't annoyed by the sand or the messiness of the ocean. It was a breathtaking view from our deck each morning!!!

I will post some pictures later.

I am happy to say that I was able to continue my 5K training at the beach. My personal trainer (Ashley) ran with me each night. I liked running with a running watch so I knew just exactly how much more was left on my run. Last night, Ashley was wearing her watch...so I ran with my cooking timer in my pocket. It worked. I don't know if that sounds really sad or resourceful. When the beeper went off...the only thing overheating was me.

IT'S TIME TO GET BACK TO WORK!

I don't mean a job. I'm not ready to go back to a structured work environment. I'm ready to get back to business...the Father's business.

I realized that since May, my spiritual walk has been lousy. I have stopped having regular quiet times, I started to feel bitter about how I was treated at my job and I was starting to really miss my grandmother. I was reading something...I can't even remembe what...but somehow it reminded me that there is alot of work to be done.

I need to put everything behind me, forgive, and move on. I know that it will be awhile before I am over the lost of my grandmother...but I need to remind myself of where she is and how happy she is.

We are leaving in one hour to go to the beach. I packed my Bible, my journal and I can' wait to hear what the Lord says to me when I escape the everyday distractions and spend time alone with him.

I want to sit on the sand and marvel over his creation. I want to "be still" and be reminded that He is God. I have some ideas that I want to implement into my speaking and I want God to affirm this or redirect if needed this week.

I am ready to roll up my sleaves and put the worldly things behind me and move on.

I overheard someone say the other day that the Lord gives each one of us gifts and when we are not using them...something is going undone.

I will try to blog while I am away.

I MISS MY FAMILY

Our family had planned a long weekend to visit family in Chicago this weekend, but things changed. Ashley had to have 4 wisdom teeth pulled and I got sick, so we stayed home.

I always wondered what it would be like to be alone in this house for more than a few hours. I realized...it is lonely.

Fortunately, I have had a chance to bond with our new dog Cody. I have let him sleep out of his cage and in our bedroom floor. He is a wonderful watch dog. I just wished he would sleep through the night. He likes to explore around 3:30 am.

I can't belive I actually took him through the Wendy's drive thru and ordered him a bacon cheeseburger. My family had better return soon before I start dressing him like Paris Hilton's dog.

ANOTHER CUTE PICTURE

I LOVE THIS PICTURE

HERE'S OUR FAMILY

I am so excited to share with you some pictures that we had taken a couple of weeks ago. A good friend of mine has started an incredible photography business. She has a wonderful eye for photography and a very creative approach to capturing your family's personality.

I usally dread "picture days"...but this one was no stress at all. We dressed very casual and the children really enjoyed the day.

I want to help Emily's dream come true and I encourage everyone who reads this blog to make an appointment with Emily and her partner Angela.

Here is her website:

www.sweetdreamsphotography.net

Here are a few of the pictures.

Go Emily...dream BIG!!!

HOW DO YOU SAY I LOVE YOU

One of the many lessons that I learned since my grandmother's death, is to make sure you say I love you.

I find it interesting how each one of my children respond.

Mom: I love you
Ashley: I love you too
Alex: I "wuv" you (in a pretend baby voice)
Ally: just rolls her eyes
Austin: gives me the thumbs up

I'll take each response...I know what they mean.

A TEAR IN MY EYE

AFter a busy week of cleaning and throwing away...we finally had time to sit down and relax. While everyone was inside my grandmother's house...I chose to go out and sit on her front porch all alone. I actually sat in her chair. The chair that is in the exact place that it has been for years. I looked out onto her street and noticed something. Every single house on the street had a front porch. It seems like this is something you rarely see in new homes today. My grandmother would sit on her front porch everyday except in the winter. She would enjoy her beautiful yard. She went sit out and talk to her neighbors. It dawned on me that the porch would never be the same. She would never sit in this chair again. I began to cry at the finality of this. I asked myself...what would I say to her if we could have her back for 5 minutes. I know that this is just a dream, but someday...I will have her for eternity. It's almost 9:00 pm. Guess where I have been for the last hour? Sitting on the front porch of my parent's house. There is something very special about a front porch. It's a place where we all finally slow down and talk. If I ever build a house...I want a front porch.

HELLO FROM WEST VIRGINIA

I am currently in Charleston helping my family clean my grandmother's house. It has been quite an adventure. Each time I sort through a drawer or a closet, it's like looking into her life. We have found pictures of past homes and of family members that have passed away. We have discovered glasses from a restaurant she once owned and beautiful vases hidden under debris. I am excited about a trip that we are going to take to her family's graveyard. She chose not to be buried there, but her parents and grandparents are there. I am told you have to hike to the sight and pray that you don't meet a snake or two. I am also exicted about what Ashley is helping me and my best friend Sandi do. She is training us to run a 5k in October. The Bible says that all things are possible with God. I also want to leave you on a humorous note. We were driving through Twinsburg the other day and I pointed out to my son Alex that the local fortune teller had went out of business. He replied..."Looks like she didn't see that coming."

SPEAKING SCHEDULE

We have returned from West Virginia. I will write later about some of the "GOD SIZED" things that happened during this time of grief. I learned one thing about prayer while I was in Charleston...It's Powerful! I learned that I don't pray enough so...I am posting my speaking schedule in hopes that you will pray for me.

September - Belleview Alliance Church
November - Kentucky and Ohio Christian Women's Club
November - Bethel College
December - Sandusky Christian Women's Club
February - Riverwood Women's retreat

MY GRANDMOTHER IS WITH JESUS

This morning at 3:00 am the phone rang. My mom called and said "We're losing her." We were losing my grandmother.

Nee had fallen Friday and sustained a bad break to her hip. The doctors operated on her saturday and we all felt hopeful that she had pulled through.

After surgery, she was sitting up in bed joking with everyone. I even had a chance to talk to her. If you know me well, you know that I use humor to get me through tough situations. She was 87 and I told her that if she had begun dating again like I had advised her...this fall would never have happened.

She laughed.

At 3:15am, she took her last breath and stepped into eternity with Jesus. That brings me comfort.

I know this because several years ago she went through Judgement House and professed her faith in Jesus. Her counselor told me the next week and I rejoiced. We no longer had to question where my grandmother would spend eternity.

I am sort of in shock right now. I can't imagine driving to Charleston today and not going to her house for dinner. She showed how much she loved you with food. She was a wonderful cook. I can't imagine going to the auction without her.

After each ballgame, Alex would call her and tell her how many hits he had. She paid $5 per hit. We never had the chance to tell her that Alex had 3 hits on Saturday.

I loved her so much...I can't explain. Her unconditional love for people and her heart to serve was amazing. Her funeral will be huge. The place will be packed. I can't wait to hear the stories of how she touched the lives of people. The saddest person will be an autistic boy named Eddy. Eddy lived across the street from where my grandmother worked. Everyday he would come over and she would fix him lunch and send him home with dinner. Eddy watched my grandmother enter her place of work each day. He wanted to make sure she arrived safely.

Pray for our family as we say goodbye to this dear dear lady.

Her name was Edna Fields.

GOD IS SO GOOD!!!

Today I was out doing errands and I had 1/2 hour to kill. I was in Streetsboro and decided to go to the flea market. I went to this one booth that sells inexpensive faith based jewelrey. Guess what she had? A mother's prayer bracelet. I couldn't believe it. It was exactly what I had in mind. It has 2 heart charms and a cross charm. It is silver and says "Children are a gift from God to hold and to treasure to pray for without measure.

The best part is...it was only $8. The lady who sold it to me said that you can't help think about your children each time you see or "hear" your bracelet. (the charms make a noise when you move)

I LOVE IT.

I even saw a friend of mine at the flea market and she bought one too.

I'll keep you posted on my prayer journey. GOD IS SO GOOD!

RAISING CHILDREN ON OUR KNEES

Today I was talking to a mom about raising daughters. She told me that her 5th grade daughter is being taught "sex ed" in school. Her daughter was in one of my purity seminars. I thought it was interesting that her daughter told her mom that school health classes can make you become curious about sex and she was glad that she had heard the "truth" about God's reason for sex.

We talked in depth of how we need to be constantly praying for our children. I confided to her that sometimes in the busyness of my day...I often forget to pray for my children. I am a visual person and maybe I need a visual that reminds me to pray for my children...so here is my idea.

I am either going to make a bracelet or buy a bracelet with a heart charm. I will wear this bracelet as a constant reminder to pray for my children. To pray that they will guard their heart against the world and that they will give their heart first to God and then to that "special someone" someday.

Wouldn't it be cool if one day...I could hand this charm over to their "special someone".

I dream big dreams...but I also serve a big God.

GOD IS FAITHFUL!!!

Today I received word that Bethel College has accepted me as a chapel speaker. I will be speaking to the students some time in November. My talk during chapel will be called "When God writes your story" and that evening I will be speaking to girls only. This talk will be about purity, modesty and patience. It will be called "When God writes your LOVE story." I am excited and scared...but he is faithful. He has already given me some creative ideas. I am excited that Ashley gets to introduce me. It is interesting that I will be talking to the girls about self image and one of the first things I thought of whenI received the offer was "what will Iwear, and can I lose 3o pounds by november." Looks like I need to "preach to the choir"

A Big Step of Faith

I have been asked to submit a speaker's proposal to an organization. If I am approved, I would have the opportunity to speak to about 1500 people.

This would be a huge step out of my comfort zone. So far, my biggest audience has been about 300.

I debated about whether or not I should even submit my packet. I keep hearing little voices saying "you're not good enough". So after seeking some wise counsel, I have decided to submit my packet and let them be the judge of whether I am suitable or not.

The packet is due this Tuesday. I will keep you posted.

As I was fretting over this decision, I was reminded of a devotional that I read a few weeks ago.

It was based on the story in the Bible when Jesus drove the demons out of a man and into the pigs. People were so "afraid" of what Jesus could do and his power that they asked him to leave.

I am in awe of how God is working in my life and sometimes I am a little afraid...but I don't want to be so afraid of his awesome power that I "ask him to stop."

I love it when he speaks to me and when he asks me to do things that are "big" in my human eyes. I don't care if I am found to be good...I just want to be faithful.

My days at work are winding down and I have no second thoughts.

I can't wait to have an unscheduled summer.

Joy

His Word Will Never Return Void

I am not sure if I quoted that scripture correctly...but I was reminded of this a couple of times recently.

Everytime I speak to young girls about purity and modesty I always wonder "are they listening...are they getting it?" I have been affirmed a couple of times recently that some "are getting it."

One mother shared with me that she was taking her daughter school shopping and her daughter was very careful of which clothes she selected. She explained to her mom that it is important that she doesn't show too much skin since boys will begin to "fill in the blanks."

Friday night I was driving my daughter's friends around on their kidnapping. One gal, who is very petite, made herself a dress out of masking tape on top of her clothes. I wish I had taken a picture. We were joking with her about her new outfit and she reminded us that it was "modest" based on everything that I had taught them. It was good to hear them retiterate what they had learned.

It is nothing that I have done...it is what God has done through me.

I am winding down my job at Hope and I am starting to begin a new season. My prayer is that the Lord brings speaking events to me. Right now I have 4 more this year and two more potential opportunities.

I am so excited to begin this new journey.

Pray for me.

Joy

Through The Eyes Of A Child

My mother is a kindergarten aid and she shared with me this cute story about her class.

The other day, they were talking to the children about moving up to first grade. The children didn't quite understand why they couldn't stay in kindergarten forever. Mom and Mrs. Ray explained that each year they needed to advance to the next grade. The children were very upset about this and wanted to know who said they had to go to 1st grade. Mom explained to them that is was a law that they could not stay in kindergarten forever. This sparked a conversation on how laws are made. As mom attempted to explain this process to a 5 year old, one child caught on to the fact that a law must be made by a lawyer and since his dad was a lawyer...he could change the law.

My mom shared this humorous story with the little boys dad (a lawyer). A few days later, this father brought in an official legal documented that he drafted through his office. It was on offical legal paper with lots of legal verbage and was notarized. He had each child sign their name to this proposed law that they could stay in kindergarten forever. They are going to submit this to the superintendant and my mom even has a friend who is in the legislature. He promised the children that he would submit this law.

Will the law change? No way...but look how some important people took time out of their busy schedule to invest in a child. This will probably make it in the local newspaper. I love it when people are creative and use their creativity to invest in a child. This busy dad created a memory that these children will never forget.

Sometimes I get so busy that I forget to stop and take the time to have fun...so tonight I am driving 4 6th grade girls to kidnap their friend for her birthday. I have housework to do, paperwork to do...but that can wait. ..spending time with my daughter can't. I think it should be a new law.

Top Ten List

Top Ten Reasons why April 22nd was a great day!

10. I found my missing glasses
9. My daughter cleaned her room
8. I was able to sleep in
7. Found a new outfit at a yard sale for $4
6. Had a picnic with my family at a park
5. Didn't have to cook any of the food for the picnic
4. Dropped off an employment application for my daughter and the receptionist was READING HIS BIBLE!!!
3. Did I mention my daughter cleaned her room
2. Was asked to be the retreat speaker for Riverwood Women's Retreat
1. Found happiness in the small and big things of life.

Just wanted to share this post because God is truly showing me how to appreciate the small and big blessings of life.

I am so excited about today also.

I was able to attend worship today!!! I am also speaking tonight in Burton.
God is so faithful.

Where did I leave off...?

I felt like the time was finally right for me to update my blog. I have so much to share I am not sure where to begin.

I guess the best place to begin is "I QUIT MY JOB!!!!"

After 3 months of praying about my job...I had finally come to the conclusion that I would not quit. In spite of it's bad points, it was a great job for me and my finally. I set my own schedule, I could even work from home and the pay wasn't bad. Much to my surprise, the day after I made this decision...I resigned.

Not what I expected to do on March 21st.


It began with a meeting talking about one thing and led to other discussions and then to eventually me resigning.

Was it a good meeting? No...many tears were shed and even some emotions ran high.

The rest of the day I found myself hosting my own pity party with me being the only guest.

It was a day of reflection, remorse and a lot of prayer.

I went to work the next day with one expectation and left with a twist.

I expected to go and do my job, clean out my desk but instead found myself in another meeting.

I truly experienced God's Word when he tells us that good can come from all things.

The meeting turned an angry heart (mine) into one that could forgive. I won't share details except to say that I truly believe that God was working in that meeting in a big way. I have always been one who needed to be able to always share my honest feelings and I had a chance to do that.

It didn't change my mind about quitting, but it helped to heal relationships that are very important to me.

I never thought that my feelings would take a 180 degree turn so quickly...but I am grateful.

I still need some time to heal...but I am so grateful that I am no longer angry and there isn't a grudge for me to carry.

I can be pretty stubborn, so you don't know what a big deal this is to me. I can carry a grudge.

My head is spinning right now with the possibilities that I can now do.

I can go to the pool more, I can spend more time with me family, I can go away for a weekend, I can write, I can speak, I can visit other services at other churches, I can totally switch ministries. I can stay for one service. I can go to a service. I can sit with my family at church.

I CAN'T WAIT!!

The Lord has already given me some ideas....but I won't share them until I know this is from Him.

I have so much more that I want to share...of things that I have experienced in the last couple of weeks.

More to come...

Joy

Taking A break

I am taking a little break from blogging. I am taking some time to write and to really seek what the Lord wants me to do this year. I have neglected my blog...honestly...because I felt like I really had nothing to share...or the desire to share.

I will return...hopefully with a clear understanding and vision of God wants for my life...but I will continue to read the many blogs that I read daily.

Many of you inspire me in many many ways.

Joy

Why a Daughter Needs Her Dad

I found this on www.955thefish.com

I loved it...I hope you do too.

Why A Daughter Needs Her DadWritten by: M. Carr


As my father sees me, so shall I.As a daughter, all my self-worth comes from how much my father values me. The amount of affection he pays me as a child is what I will expect from a mate. The respect he shows my mother, will be what I will tolerate from a husband. The time invested in me as a child, will equal the amount of time I invest in him during his "golden" years. How he sees me in his eyes, is how I will see myself. A little girl becomes exactly what her father says she is. In short, I will be the product of what you do and say around me, to me, and to others. No compliment or blessing is any higher than that of my daddy's. In short, how you see me, is how I will be. The least little comment, especially negative, I will take to heart. You think the sun will rise and set with me, but without you I have no world. You are my daddy--and little girl's NEED their daddy's.

I live in a Bubble!!

I realized last weekend, that I live in a Holy bubble. I work at a church, all of my close friends go to my church, my children go to Christian Schools. I take classes in religion. I am sure if there was an all Christian Grocery store I would shop there. (ha ha)

I spoke last week on the woman at the well and how Christ broke tradition and met her at this well. He a man, a jewish leader spoke to a Samaritan woman with a scandalous past.

I named her the "original desparate housewife".

Christ went to them.

I asked God to bring unchurched people in my path, but then I later realized that sometimes I have to choose that path.

I joined a weight loss group the other night and the first lady who sat down beside me started a conversation.

This lead to "where do you work". I replied "a church". I later thought that was possibly an opening to a future spiritual conversation.

Wouldn't it be great if I furthered God's kingdom and lost weight at the same time. I love multi-tasking.

The next day I intentionally went and sat at Austin's soccer practice instead of dropping him off and coming back later.

I had the chance to get to know two women on his team.

Not a spiritual conversation...but the beginnings of a relationship.

So...I am officially coming out of my bubble...Boom...that was the sound of me bursting my holy bubble.

I will keep you posted on what God does next. I can hardly wait.

Where to Begin

2006 has gotten off to a great start...I am not sure where to begin. I had a chance to be a retreat speaker for a Women's Retreat in Pennsylvania. I was blessed to have my daughter Ashley accompany me as my "techy"...but she did so much more.

You see, when we arrived, I realized that I lad left all of my teaching notes in Ohio. I wanted to make a run for it...but Ashley reminded me that God would not let me down and she helped me to reconstruct all 4 talks.

We had an amazing weeekend. Several women shared what God was calling them to do. What a great group of women.

The following weekend, I spoke at another retreat for Hope Community Church. It was an amazing experience to worship with 130 other women fromAthens Community and other churches.


I spoke on the woman at the well and the conversation that she had with Jesus. In the closing session, I spoke about how we all have dreams that the Lord has given to us and we need to be obedient and do what he has called us to do. Some of the dreams that women shared with me were:

One lady wants to start a moms in touch group
One lady wants to start a group that would pray for their city
One lady wants to be a retreat speaker and a writer
One lady wants to write a book about her life
One lady's dream was that her daughter would be healed.

I was humbled to see how God wants to use each woman in a different way. We are going to try to start a once a month lunch or coffee where we come together and encourage each other in our dreams.

I still stand in awe of what God did this weekend.

He truly is amazing.